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How to Charm Anyone – and what you need to do it!

Many of our clients have developed the advantages of self esteem from their work in the Academy.   What do you need to be charming?   According to Brian Tracy – Self Esteem.  This make sense.

Brian tells us that self esteem is ‘how much you like yourself’ and is the sum total of how important and valuable you feel you are at any moment.   We work with our clients to know they are important and valuable at all times.  This is just so relevant to having Awesome Happiness in Your Life.  Mind you, you must ensure that you have the right type of mentality about being personally important and valuable, the wrong attitudes will irritate other people and rob you of self esteem in the future.

The Secret of Charm?  Make others feel important – the deepest craving of human nature is the need to feel valued and valuable.   When someone makes you feel important and valuable, the feelings you get from interaction with them bring you to a perception that they are charming.

Five Ways to be Charming

1.   Acceptance:   The greatest gift you can give other people is the attitude of “unconditional positive regard”.  That is you accept them in their entirity, without limitation.  You never criticise or find fault.  You are totally accepting of everything about them.  This is the starting point of being charming.

Just consider though that this is a wonderful way to go through life.   It is tough to take this approach, but once you do you will just live in an amazing space in your life.   You should have this attitude not only to others, but also to yourself.

I must admit to not have mastered this attitude yet, but I am getting there.

More of the five ways to be charming in the next article.   Also our thanks to Brian Tracy who we have enjoyed following for over ten years.  His books are so insightful, check them out on Amazon.

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